Welcome to my 30 day better Mom Summer Challenge.
Summer is here, weather your totally ready for it or not.
I am not a morning person, I like to sleep.
I work nights and get my very best sleep once my husband gets out of bed in the morning.
So the thought of no 6:55am bus, makes me happy.
I try my very best not to let the summer get the best of me. Here are my best tips.
You dont have to do one thing a day, it’s not that kind of challenge.
Try to do everything on the list for 30 days. We have 63 days of summer this year. I swear it gets shorter every year.
After 30 days I am hoping some of these things will be habit and some of them already are.
These tips will help you connect more with your kids, make a conscious effort to prioritize your ‘Mom’ time as well as a little romance.
Weather your a SAHM or work all week while your kids are at home. These tips should help the summer go a little smoother.
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1. Prep your morning the night before.
10 minutes of prep will change your morning flow way more than you could imagine. We pick out clothes👕👗👖, I put shoes👟👡 by the door too. (finding shoes in the morning is a horrible game) have a game plan for what tomorrow will look like. Pack a bag and put it by the door. 🛍 (diaper bag for those with bsbies) We try to spend 5 min in each of their rooms to pick up stuff and organize for the next day.
2. Greet your children each morning.
Weather you wake your kids up or they wake themselves up. A few extra minutes just for them in the morning will help. How you start the day matters. 🤗
3. Do something for yourself each day.
Uninterrupted coffee ☕ a morning shower, dairy queen, music 🎶 in the car🚘, whatever it is do something just for you. Every single day. Taking care of yourself is taking care of your kids.
4. 10-15 minutes of uninterrupted time with each child.
The 1st time I read this, I though that’s nuts I spend all day long with my kids hours upon hours⏰ I most definitely spend 15 uninterrupted minutes with them, but then I kept track, and there wasn’t a time in 3 days that either one of them had my undivided attention.⏲ Once I started to pay attention to this, and give each one some undivided time, our relationship started to grow in z different way, a little each day.
5. Try to do something active everyday.
Even on hot days we try to go swimming, go to the river, play in the sprinkler, go hiking at sunset 🌅 or sunrise🌄. The lake is always great. We live in Arizona, So its HOT here🌞🌡🌝. Splash pads are a family favorite here, I even like them. It’s hot. 🏜🔥 at least 60 minutes.
6. Prioritize your child’s sleep.
Sleep is super important for all of us. 😴 Both my kids have a hard time eating dinner with the sun still up, but we still have to have a bedtime routine. **We do love to go night swimming and catch fireflies at the river, So I try to plan either a late nap or a not early next morning on these nights.
7. Schedule your summer out.
Print out the 8-12 weeks 🗓 (we have 9 weeks) of summer and fill in the blanks. Family Vacation 🏝🏞🏖 takes the #1 spot and we work from there. Both of my kids 5 & 9 are in swim lessons 🏊♀️and love them. So we do 2 different 2 week sessions, the library has all sorts of events. Cooking, rock finding, water balloons ect. both my kids pick a few favorites and I write them down. We schedule a few out of town trips and at least 1 camping🏕 trip. Before I know it our summer is full. (Do not forget to schedule some you stuff too!! Girls lake trip👙 massage, 🍹girls night out,👠 date nights💅💋 with hubby ect.)
8. Pick a 1- on- 1 activity to do with each kid.
A few times a week pick an activity with your kids 1 on 1. Cooking🥞🍪🍭 building a fort, reading a book 📚 going fishing 🐟🐠 getting ice cream 🍦🍨 watching a movie, a day date. 🍽🧁The car ride alone can be pretty great.
9. Make a big deal of them listening or following directions.
Everytime your little one listens👂 praise the effort of the task. Start young and make a big deal of them doing the things you ask them to do, or putting effort into making sure they get the stuff done that you asked of them. As they get bigger they will remember to do their homework 📓then empty the dishwasher without being nagged about it. 🛏🧹🧺
10. Breathe….before you yell. Calm down and breathe.
Before you yell. Is it really that big of a deal? Decide on that answer and act accordingly. ✅
11. Make manners important.
From the time your kids are young, try to make manners important. My kids both love to go on Fancy dates🍽🥩🍗🍰🍾 So I have used those opportunities to teach them both about etiquette. If you’ve even been on a cruise🛳 elegant night is perfect!👗🥿🎩💄
12. A bedtime routine.
Always tuck in your kiddos🛏, a nice bedtime routine is a perfect way to reflect and end on a positive note. 🥰😘😴 because I work nights, I feel like my kids have missed out on this the most. I’m hoping to make sure this year as my daughter starts Kindergarten that we get a great bedtime routine down.
13. Start a gratitude journal.
There are a thousand reasons to be grateful everyday, remember these little things and write them down. 📒 Your favorite play list🎶 your husband kept the kids away for you to take a bath🛁 school is almost out!! 💐🌺🌷🌹🌵🏖🏝🏞🎡🎢⛵⛱You booked a Caribbean trip for next year!
14. Set a time limit on your screentime and theirs.
Designate a set amount of time for everyone to be on their devices, including yourself. 📱💻 Unless its music 🎶 put your phone away for a while everyday. 👨👩👧👦👩👧👨👦🥳
15. Teach, or learn a new skill with your child.
Pick something you’ve never done, and try it with your kids. Paddle boards ⛱ Cooking 🥞🌭🍳🥧🍽 something new, trying a brand new fruit.🍈🍍🍑🥥🥝🥭🍉🍋
I feel as though a lot of our chaos comes from simply not truly listening. 👂Stop and listen. Listen to what they are actually trying to say. 🗣
17. Ask for Help and then let them help you.
They will be excited to help you. 🙂☺️🤗
18. Try to be consistent and have routines.
You do not have to have a schedule 📖🖋or time limits on things, but having a morning routine, 🥞 lunch routine, 🥪 bath/bedtime routine.📚 It’s nice to know what’s coming up next.
19. Remember your kids are human too.
They have big emotions in little bodies and it’s ok for them to have bad days too. 😂😍🤔😥😯😫😝😲😖😭🤯🤪😵😡😱🥳🤥👿👺🦹♂️🧚♀️🧟♀️🤷♂️🙇♀️👨👩👧👦 My kids are completely different, but they both have bad days. I’m sure yours do too. My daughter loves Taylor Swift, So we Shake it off! My son is a bit more emotional so he takes a little more.
20. Encourage them to be creative.
Paint, color, craft whatever it is just help to inspire them.🖌🖍🧪🔭🌎🧭My daughter loves fashion, so she designs outfits. 👗👚👒📿👙🛍👡She draws them out and colors them. It’s adorable.
21. Start a tradition.
Something brand new that you do with your kids, it could be together or separate. Whatever you want, you can even change it up. Like pizza night🍕 family game night👨👩👧👦 ice cream after football🍦🍨, girls nail day👩👧, have a water balloon fight as soon as they get off the bus on the last day of school every year. The options are endless, but pick something cool 💞 and fun that you want to be remembered for.
22. Teach Independence This summer.
Make a list of 4-5 things each of your kiddo do not do independently yet and start working on them. Things like brush their own teeth or shower.🛁 Confidence is something they earn, and with each task they learn to do, the more they will be ready to try.
23. Show affection to the people that you love.
💞💑💝 This might seem simple, but it is easier said than done at times. I want my kids to share their best selves with us, the people who love them the most. They deserve the best we have too.
24. Let them know when you are wrong.
Let them hear you apologize when you are wrong. Everyone is wrong sometimes and teaching your children how to deal with it can help them not ruin relationships that mean something to them in the future.
25. Give them the things they NEED.
Be clear about the things they need. Food, water, clothing, shelter and Love. Everything else are things you provide just because you want too. My son understands this way better than my daughter. (We are still working on her) lol, she tries to negotiate anything for a toy. 🎁
26. Be Thankful. Express your thankfulness.
To your kids, for your kids, for your family and for things they make you feel, not just things you have. 🥳
27. Set Goals Teach them about wants, and how to achieve them.
We have shadow boxes that were a Christmas gift a few years ago. They both have their first initial on them. They save for things they want. My daughter it’s as simple as ‘a toy’ my son has more specific things like a gaming chair.
28. Teach them to give, without expecting anything in return.
Nowadays every kid brings home something from a birthday party, even sports become about the snack at such a young age. There are a bunch of ways to get involved with your community, you can start with just a trash bag on a family hike. 🏞
29. Talk to them like real people.
I know they are not adults, so you do not have to treat your 4 year old as an adult but you get the drift. Let them know you appreciate their opinion even if you are still in charge. Try to explain the rules and why they are there. Both our kids like to see stuff. I printed out our family rules and they each tell us when one is broken. (Even if its Mom or Dad)
30. Remember Summer goes super fast.
Before you know it you will be school clothes shopping and they will be going into a whole new year. Try to stay busy and occupied. I keep Wednesdays for cleaning house and laundry and Fridays open because I work nights and the weekend is super busy so I relax on Friday mornings. Sunday we do family stuff.
I hope you all have a great summer.
For the Moms who work, I hope your house isn’t trashed everyday when you come home, I hope the Moms who stay home and have crazy days get to sleep in a few times, I hope everyone enjoys the things summer has to offer and slide into fall before we end. Know it.